The Institution of Marriage is ‘Destroyed’? Who Knew?


A pastor’s recent editorial claims we have witnessed the ‘destruction’ of the institution of marriage between a man and a woman.

I came across an op-ed piece the other day that criticized a pastor who he felt unreasonably apologized for praying for President Donald Trump.

To be honest, I didn’t get very far into the piece.

The writer admitted, early on, he didn’t know all of the circumstances that led to the apology. To me, that’s a critical prerequisite for expressing so formal an opinion on something.

But what really stopped me was a portion of another statement:

Over the last few decades, Americans have seen the destruction of the institution of marriage between a man and a woman, the removal of God’s Word in several areas, and the blatant murdering of millions of babies.

I stopped reading at that point. Actually, I stopped reading at the first item in the list.

Frankly, I don’t think we’ve seen any “destruction” of the “institution of marriage.” It hasn’t been destroyed as an institution between a man and a woman just because it can also be between a man and a man or a woman and a woman.

All of those marriages between a man and woman that have ever existed are just as valid now as they were on the couples’ wedding dates.

And all of those couples — consisting of a man and woman — who are engaged and set to be married will have a marriage at their appointed date that’s just as valid as ever.

What makes an institution stand is the people who embrace it. They’re the ones who make it valuable.

They, through their commitment, make that marriage valid or invalid. No one else can control that.

What the writer no doubt meant to say was that they’ve seen the “destruction” of marriage as being only between a man and a woman.

Even so, the fact that same-sex marriage is now a legal option for same-sex couples has absolutely no effect on marriage between opposite-sex couples.

If it did, then all of the divorces our society has seen over the years before same-sex marriage was a legal option would have done more than enough damage to “destroy” the institution.

Perhaps there are churches that now refuse to marry opposite-sex couples because they feel the “institution” is destroyed.

But I doubt it.

Maybe there are churches that no longer offer counseling to men and women hoping to marry each other because they feel there’s no point. Maybe they even tell opposite-sex couples there’s no reason to even bother pursuing a faithful, committed marriage-like relationship because, well, you know, that institution is “destroyed.”

But I doubt it.

Maybe there are even churches that will still perform the ceremonies but won’t charge a penny because the exercise is pointless.

But I highly doubt that.

Maybe one day, we can drop this absurd notion that because same-sex couples want to embrace an institution they see as valuable, it’s destroying it for opposite-sex couples.

Unfortunately, given the way many churches insist on behaving these days, I doubt that, too.

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Patrick is a Christian with more than 29 years experience in professional writing, producing and marketing. His professional background also includes social media, reporting for broadcast television and the web, directing, videography and photography. He enjoys getting to know people over coffee and spending time with his dog.