What Would God Think of Singles Awareness Day?
Every February 15th, the day after Valentine’s Day, has long been called Singles Awareness Day for those without significant others.
What would Jesus do on Singles Awareness Day? Not for Himself, but rather what would he do with those who aren’t in love or married?
To put it another way, is it sinful to be single?
I’ve been to churches who seem to be operating under the premise that everyone who’s married is doing the right thing and everyone who’s single needs to be thinking about getting married. Soon.
I’ve never been to a church where a singles class resembles a dating space, but I’ve been to churches where people, upon finding out you’re not married, seem to act as if there might be something wrong with you.
What does the Bible say about Singles Appreciation Day?
Well, nothing, of course. The day wasn’t invented at the time the Bible was written.
But it does have something to say about being single, from Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:7-8:
“I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am.”
The Gospel Coalition, a site with which I do not always agree, also says singleness is a gift from God, just as marriage is. If you’re single, it reasons, God has given you the gift of singleness. When you marry, that spouse becomes God’s next gift.
TGC, then, thinks no matter your marital status, it’s a gift. So, it doesn’t exactly come right out and say, accept the gift and be happy with it.
It goes on to say that remaining single has at least two advantages. I’ll just take on one of the two: that you’re spared the “troubles” of marriage. That may well be so. I’ve seen plenty of marriages filled with bickering and moments of distress. But I’ve seen plenty of single people struggling with relationship woes for not being married; they experience a good deal of stress, albeit a different kind of stress.
Would Jesus be upset with anyone who hasn’t gotten married?
No. I don’t think He would at all.
I think each of us is capable of serving God and being faithful to our beliefs. I think that’s the kind of thing that God (and His Son) would be much more concerned about on Singles Appreciation Day.
Or any other day, for that matter.
If you’re single and you feel you’re disappointing God, I might suggest that you rethink things a bit. Do you follow the 10 Commandments? Do you follow the Greatest Commandment?
Worry about finding a mate — if you still feel like you need one — once you master those.